There’s a lot of evidence that shows people who know what they want, are a lot more likely to get what they want.
And there are thousands of books out there on how to set goals, but the problem is… most people don’t know what it is they want.
How can you aim for something when you don’t know what you’re aiming for?
There is plenty of advice out there on how to achieve the life you dream about, but the majority of people won’t set goals, and the year will pass by just like it did last year, and the year before.
The Goal Setting Problem No-one Talks About
Which one sounds most like you?
- You know what you want, but don’t know how to get there
- Or, you don’t know what it is you want/where you want to be
The people stuck on the first problem are hungry for information. They’re looking for systems, techniques and advice to help them figure out how they’re going to reach their goals. But these people who are actively seeking change are the minority.
The people with the second problem find it difficult to know what they want for a few reasons:
- They know what they don’t want, but find it hard to clarify what they do want
- They find it hard to pick something
- They don’t like where they are, but aren’t sure where they could (or should) be
- They might even know they’re holding themselves back, they’re just not sure why
- They let others make decisions for them
- Being asked about what they want is stressful
- They might be faced with a big decision, too scared to make a choice
If any of these sound familiar, you’re finding it hard to get anywhere because you don’t know where it is you want to be.
Here’s how to clarify what you want when you don’t know what you want.
Start with what you DON’T want
It’s much easier to describe what it is you don’t want. You probably don’t want to live pay-to-pay.
Think of the opposite to find what you want instead.
Ok, you want to be earning more & be better with money so you aren’t stressing about every week.
Now think about what leads to these things you don’t want.
Is it because you buy lunch everyday? You don’t have a budget? You eat out often? Those would be great places to start! Even if it’s as small as leaving your card at home, or making your lunch the night before.
Try that for a week. Then aim for 30 days.
Once you’ve got the hang of that, start looking at what other little habits you can improve on to help you get where you want to be.