I’ve recently started playing Detroit: Become Human, and it’s all about how androids are becoming more human-like and pose a risk to humanity. Which made me think, what does it mean to be human?
In most literature, it’s the ability to feel emotion, which results in flawed behaviour.
I’ve also started reading How to Be Human by NewScientist, which explains how a lot of our behaviour & functions were developed as a survival mechanism.
Those negative and anxious thoughts that crop up now and again? Well, those pessimistic thoughts would’ve saved your ancestors from a conspicuous looking rock. They clue you in on potential dangers.
So, why do we set goals as if we are perfect flawless beings who have full control over how we feel and what we do?
It’s ridiculous when you think about it. Especially with failure being a big part of reaching your goal – it’s what puts a lot of people off!
So, how do you set goals for humans? Here’s how:
1. Be realistic
I used to set big, ambitious goals that would get me excited. Which is a good tactic, except my timeline in reaching that goal was hugely unrealistic. And I felt like a failure because I was only 35% closer to my target rather than achieving it 100%.
So when setting your goal, make sure your deadline is relatively realistic.
It can be hard to know when you haven’t worked towards something before, but know that you can move your deadline at any stage.
2. Expect things to not go right
When I first started selling the 90-Day Goal Planner I had a few people message me saying that they were taking a break because they fell off track and would get back to their goal soon…
I realised I hadn’t set the right expectations. People expected to have 90 perfect days in a row. They expected to reach their goal within 90 days.
So when things weren’t going right – people felt like they couldn’t use their goal planner to record their progress…
But filling in the difficult challenges is a powerful step in reaching your goal!
Because those challenges, hurdles, difficulties, whatever-you-wanna-call-thems, are a natural part of the process. They will crop up. Loads of times.
That’s why it’s important to make a plan for when they do. What you do next is what matters most, anyway.
3. Chip away at it daily
If your goal was to “get fit”, I’m not saying you should attend the gym every single day. What I am saying is “be active everyday”, and however that comes to be is A-O-K.
You might spend 30 mins cleaning the house, walking the dog, going for a quick bike ride, or it might be a brisk 10 minute walk down the drive and back a few times.
What you do doesn’t matter – it’s the daily effort that counts. Why?
Because daily habits have a compounding effect. 14 days of 10 minute daily walks are better than doing nothing. And because you’re doing it daily, you’re creating a new habit.
So before you know it, going for that daily walk becomes an automatic thing that just happens!
When you’re feeling like you can’t get anything right, remember the main differences between androids and humans… We’re driven by emotion and as a result, have many flaws.
It’s helpful to remind yourself of that when it seems like things aren’t perfect.
Because they’re not. And that’s ok.